“Spring moon— if I touch it, it would drip.”— Kobayashi Issa, from Haiku: An Anthology of Japanese Poems (edited by Stephen Addiss, Fumiko Yamamoto and Akira Yamamoto)
i never want to contribute to toxic positivity so i want to acknowledge that sometimes things just suck and there isn’t a bright side. the best thing you can do in those times is take care of yourself as much as possible. maybe that means just brushing your teeth, drinking some water or calling up a friend. you don’t always have to be grateful for where you are in life. sometimes you have to get through some hard shit first, but i know that you’re capable of doing it.
love is more than balance. it’s about attunement. to complement each other. being able to give a little more than usual when the other is in need of it. it’s about creating a safe place for each other and a healthy space between each other. to fill the silence of another with meaning. to fill the void with love without flooding it.
another thing my therapist told me is u cant change who u are but u can grow. like u can change ur behavior but u cant change the experiences that have shaped u…all u can do is learn new things and add to urself and make those demons a smaller less impactful part of who u are…u do have to carry them with u but u dont have to indulge or listen to them
Love is a choice. It’s not something that just happens to us, but something that we actively decide to give and receive. It requires effort, commitment, and sacrifice, but it can also bring great rewards.
“Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt.”— Meša Selimović





